Dating the ex again
Things get quiet, and then out of nowhere you get an innocent text message, e-mail, or phone call. " leads "Sure I can meet" which turns into "Why did I break up with him again? Just like the clothes you keep in your closet and no longer wear, there is a reason that your exes are just that. For whatever reason, though, you just cannot bear to throw them away.What if you can’t completely cut off contact because you have children together, run a business together, or work together? If your ex wants to know how you’re handling the breakup? And you know what they say—what comes around goes around. And depending on the size of the city you live in, a post-breakup run-in with your ex is not only possible, it’s probable. Bumping into him does not mean that the two of you are meant to be together. A word of warning when you’re in post-breakup mourning: DO NOT seek comfort in the arms of your ex. Instead, recruit a support system from your inner circle of friends, preferably friends who have your best interests at heart and won’t report back to your ex on your progress and setbacks. Then shut the door on any and all opportunities to help each other heal following the breakup.
Rather than become a shut-in out of fear of your ex encounter, embrace the possibility and plan for it. In fact, your ex encounter will probably be a lot less dramatic than this scenario. In bumping into your ex, you may be reminded of what you loved about him or her. Instead, summon that inner strength, smile politely, and extricate yourself from the situation as soon as is possible without being rude.
Authentic change that has a lasting effect (and doesn’t suddenly disappear when the adrenaline from watching Tony Robbins or reading a self-help book fades) comes from altering our every day habits. While I do not doubt the intention people have for change, I question the impact if that intention is not backed by actions, and reinforced by repetition.
That, I believe is how your brain becomes rewired for meaningful change.
Hindsight gives us the ability to savor our regret, and reconsider the choice we made.
" and ends with the question "Should I try this again? Time apart from an ex can provide a moment of clarity about the relationship that was not possible or difficult to achieve during it.